Month: April 2008

  • Pandora’s War Chest


    Note:  What this entry doesn’t show is a very long backstory.  I post it here simply as catharsis and fodder for commentary, both positive and negative.  I’m not perfect and I’m not afraid of exposing some of my own flaws publicly.  Suffice it to say, I know from whence I cometh.

    Carey Anthony


    Re: Michael’s Son
    12 messages


    From: Bob

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 11:06 AM

    To: Carey


    Carey,

    Remember Michael,
    who was at the party?

    His only son died
    in Iraq last week.

    It’s a terrible
    loss, but that’s what he wanted to do, like all the other volunteers fighting
    for us.

    Bob


    From: Carey Anthony
    Sent: Wednesday, April 23, 2008 1:06 PM
    To: Bob
    Subject: Re: Michael’s Son

    I’m sorry for his loss.
    Even more reason we should have never gone to Iraq.  Senseless, and he
    accomplished nothing.  Too bad.


    From:  Bob

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 11:09 AM

    To: Carey Anthony

    Sorry, but I don’t agree with you on that, and neither would Michael.

    You should thank God there are people who are willing to give
    their lives so you can live the way you do.


    From:  Carey Anthony

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 11:15 AM

    To: Bob

    I’m thankful we have brave men and women protecting our
    country.  God has nothing to do with it.  This war is senseless, and needs to
    end.  Period. 


    From: Bob

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 12:09 PM

    To: Carey Anthony

    I can see where someone without strong faith can feel
    like that.  I didn’t know that you went that far over the edge or what
    you do believe in anymore.

    I’m sorry, but this is another reason not to read what
    you write about Bush & the war.


    From: Carey Anthony

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 12:25 PM

    To: Bob

    Ignorance is not bliss Bob.

    I don’t think you want to open this Pandora’s Box, but if you do, prepare
    for the onslaught.

    You can start by reading The
    God Delusion
    or even watching Letting
    Go of God
    , since I’m sure you never watched it when I sent it to you the first 2 times.  After
    that we can have an intelligent, informed debate on the subject. 

    Of course, if you want to continue to believe in talking snakes and other
    such nonsense, we can maintain the status quo.  Just don’t try to
    incite me with pitiful stories about dead soldiers, because it will only
    fan the flame.  I in turn won’t point out the hypocrisy of your
    poisonous Catholic beliefs and the way you have lived your life.
     
    I’m quite content with maintaining our current relationship.  We can
    remain civil as long as we don’t bring up politics or religion, because we
    will never agree.  But the hole in my heart, for someone I once looked
    up to, who refuses to even acknowledge other thoughts, will continue to
    widen.


    From: Bob

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 12:42 PM

    To: Carey Anthony

    Carey, I agree that we will never agree on a lot of things. 
    I’m not going to change you and you’re certainly not going to change me.

    I wasn’t trying to do anything with my e-mail except let you
    know a close personal friend of mine had died.

    I think we’ve talked enough about this.


    From: Carey Anthony

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 12:55 PM

    To: Bob
    Bcc: A Concerned Friend

    Fine, but one last thing.  You were NOT just trying
    to let me know that your friend’s son died.  You were making a
    commentary on this war, and if you deny that you’re a liar!  But I didn’t say that.


    From: A concerned friend

    Wed, Apr 23, 2008 at 11:06 PM

    To: Carey Anthony

    Yikes. Let me first make clear that I completely understand
    how Bob’s willful ignorance and obvious lack of reason could test your
    patience. It’s frustrating to try to argue facts and logic with the
    President of The Flat Earth Society. Maybe that was your first mistake: you
    clearly knew his position on the war in Iraq, yet you chose to engage him
    anyway. That in itself is no crime. Far be it from me to dissuade anyone
    from missionary work. But you did so in a deliberately provocative and
    callous manner. Whatever your feelings about the war, he was obviously
    deeply affected by this tragic loss–and I think we all can agree it is
    indeed tragic and indeed a loss. So, tempting though it may have been,
    perhaps this was not the most appropriate moment to initiate a conversation
    about the relative value of this young man’s sacrifice in the service of
    his country. It seems to me that Bob may have been reaching out to you for
    comfort and consolation, and instead he was met with an indelicate (some
    might say brutal) response that felt almost accusatory. I doubt his
    recrimination surprised you. In fact, I suspect you intended as much, which
    of course opened the door for a second “conversation” on an
    equally sensitive topic: his “imaginary friend,” as Bill Maher
    likes to say. And while most reasonable 20th century adults might deem it
    fair to question the moral authority of organized religion, and might even
    be inclined to agree that it’s not outrageous to ask whether or not God is
    really just Santa for adults, again I must question your timing. It was
    poor, to say the least.

    But what really struck me was the veiled hostility and contempt betrayed by
    your condescending tone from the outset, which of course devolved into open
    hostility and contempt. Hardly productive if your genuine intent was to
    have a civil discussion about politics and religion with the man. But that
    wasn’t your goal, really. No, your goal–as you so eloquently pointed out
    at the end–was to make Bob feel your pain for himself, let him know how it
    feels. You desperately want him understand that he has a recurring a
    pattern of behavior that hurts you. And his unwillingness to even
    acknowledge that much, let alone take responsibility for it, only rubs salt
    in the wound. Your pain is valid. Your feelings are valid. You deserve better,
    especially from someone like Bob. But lashing out in kind, while totally
    understandable, will not achieve the resolution you desire deep down. It’s
    unhealthy. And it’s no excuse for your behavior. You’re bigger than this.
    You can’t honestly be satisfied with the way this little exchange panned
    out. My advice: apologize to Bob for not being more sensitive to his
    feelings, explain why you reacted as you did, and tell him you hope someday
    he will own up to the pain he causes you and make it right. If he’s not
    willing to concede you at least that much, I’m afraid you’ll just have to
    accept him for the complete ass he is and attempt to maintain a safe
    emotional distance. It’s nothing personal, Bob, and from now on let’s keep
    it that way. Nice and impersonal.

    Lastly, for future reference, you can spare yourself a lot of unnecessary
    aggravation by remembering that when faced with a hard fact and a strong
    belief that contradict one another, people almost invariably choose the
    belief.

    I love you and I’m sorry Bob is a Luddite.

    Your Concerned Friend


    From: Carey Anthony

    Thu, Apr 24, 2008 at 2:33 AM

    To: A Concerned Friend

    Of course you’re right about everything.  Except
    for maybe one small detail. I’m quite sure that Bob sent me the
    original email to just get a jab in about the war. Not to tell me about his friend’s dead son.  If that is indeed the
    case, then he deserves what he got.  Luddite indeed.

    Signed,

    Still Bitter in Bollywood


    From: A Concerned Friend

    Thu, Apr 24, 2008 at 5:50 PM

    To: Carey Anthony

    Dear SBIB,

    Although I didn’t mention it before, I admit I had the same suspicion as
    you did about your Bob’s real intentions in sending you the news in the
    first place. I elected not to explore that possibility because it seemed
    unfair not to give him the benefit of the doubt. Besides, I’ve been trying
    to temper my trademark cynicism of late. So I went with a presumption of
    innocence and assumed he was genuinely saddened by this news and wanted to
    share his grief with you. Still, anyone could see clearly at very specific
    points throughout your exchange that he seemed to be pushing buttons. And
    I’m guessing he knew just what buttons to push and what your reaction would
    be (sound familiar?).

    Whether or not he was consciously trying to insult you remains a matter of
    speculation, but you know much credence I put in gut instinct. If your gut
    tells you he sent you that e-mail as a “jab”, you may well be
    right. Certainly you know him better than I and are far more qualified to
    make that judgment. I do find it curious, though, that he would consider
    the news that a friend’s son died in combat in Iraq as somehow an
    indictment of your patriotism or moral compass, if for argument’s sake that
    was his intent.

    By that logic, the fact that so many Americans died in Vietnam
    automatically means Vietnam was a noble cause, and not a colossal
    humanitarian and foreign policy disaster. Like so many of his misguided
    ilk, Bob seems to equate not supporting the policies of our civilian
    political officials with not supporting our combat troops. Bizarre logic,
    to be sure, but quite useful when a person is looking for a reason to clear
    his conscience and avoid admitting he was dead fucking wrong on such a
    grave matter. (Remember what I said about fact vs. belief.)

    I would argue the reverse is true in this case: support for our troops and
    support for this President’s foreign policy are mutually exclusive if you
    look at the facts.

    That boy’s blood — and the blood of
    countless thousands of other people who have died needlessly in Iraq based
    on the policies of this administration — is on Bob’s hands and the hands
    of anyone else who voted for this administration and continues to support
    their foreign policy. Michael’s son died serving his country. He died
    honorably. He died doing his sworn duty as a United States soldier. But he
    died needlessly, in vain, and he died for the ugliest of causes: money. Bob
    needs to come to terms with his role in this boy’s death, because he is not
    innocent.

    These are indisputable facts: Iraq has no connection whatsoever with 911.
    It never did. It has no connection with our invasion of Afghanistan or
    Islamic fundamentalist terrorism (at least it didn’t until after we toppled
    Hussein and the jihadi flooded in from neighboring countries). We did not
    invade Iraq to make the world safe for Democracy or to free oppressed
    people. Nor did we invade Iraq to protect ourselves from a rogue state with
    weapons of mass destruction (it had none, and its capability to develop
    them had been non-existent for more than a decade). All false pretenses and
    lies. Well-documented, indisputable fact.

    Fact: we invaded Iraq as part of a twisted foreign policy vision for
    American military and economic domination called the “Project for the
    New American Century” drafted during the 90s (i.e., quite pre-911) by
    ultra-conservative capitalist nationalists (American neo-fascists, to be
    exact), many of whom currently work at the White House. (And to a lesser
    extent because the President was nursing an Oedipal grudge against the
    Hussein family.)

    Besides being spectacularly out of touch with reality (i.e., the love child
    of a bunch of demagogue nuts wed by Judeo-Christian fundamentalism and free
    market absolutism), The Project for the New American Century in practice
    represents a Christmas cash cow for petrol barons and the
    military-industrial complex.

    Phase one: stabilize the Middle East initially by way of force, and longer
    term by threat of force, thus securing our economic interests (read: oil)
    in the region for generations to come. In other words, scare the piss out of
    the Arabs by invading one of their neighbors and establishing a puppet
    regime. And you’re next if you don’t fall into line!

    Hence the Iraq invasion. Well, admittedly it didn’t work out quite the way
    these geniuses planned. Apparently, the Middle East isn’t so easily
    stabilized. Who knew?

    But at least they achieved one of their objectives: some very special
    interests got really rich (ok, really richer).

    The oil companies have logged record profits. And anyone with a defense
    contract is sitting pretty, too. But why stop there? We’ve even privatized
    our own army! They’re called contractors (e.g., Blackwater, Titan, etc.),
    but the more accurate word is mercenaries. And they are not subject to the Geneva
    Convention (a quaint ole treatise, anyway, according to the former Attorney
    General), nor do they answer to our own military on the ground. In fact,
    for example, U.S. soldiers implicated in the torture of detainees at Abu
    Ghraib were acting under the direction of private contractors. Since when
    do our own soldiers take orders from for-profit corporations? Since we
    invaded Iraq.

    Sadly, the Iraq War is really–and has always been–about lining the
    pockets of war profiteers. And they’re doing it with the blood of our young
    men and women in the military (most of whom, coincidentally, come from the
    lower socio-economic strata of the U.S. population). I know it’s horrifying
    and almost inconceivable that our own government would perpetrate such a
    heinous crime against its citizens, but these are facts. Not my personal beliefs,
    mind you. Not opinions. Not conjecture. Facts. Just check out Exxon
    Mobile’s financial statements. Better yet, check out the Vice-President’s
    former employer, Halliburton, the poster child of corporations associated
    with the Iraq War. Before the Iraq
    War began, it was 19th on the U.S. Army’s list of top contractors. In 2003,
    it claimed the number one spot and grossed $4.2 billion from the U.S.
    government. Our tax dollars.

    BTW, as of 2005, according to a report issued by Sen. Frank
    Lautenberg (D-NJ) at the time,
    Vice-President Cheney
    held 433,333 Halliburton stock options which
    over the course of the year prior rose 3,281% in value from $241,498 to
    more than $8 million. I don’t know what came of those stock options, but
    Cheney reportedly said he will give the proceeds to charity. I believe him,
    don’t you? I also understand the ex-CEO continues to receive a deferred
    salary in the neighborhood of $250,000 annually from the company, but this
    requires a fact check.

    How many lives has this administration destroyed for its blood money? For
    starters, there are close to 100,000 Iraqi civilians dead. (A conservative
    estimate according to the Iraq Body Count Project.) Women. Children. But
    who cares about them anyway, right? They deserve to die. They hate our freedom.

    And how many of our young soldiers’ lives have been wasted? More than 4,000
    are dead. How many have been maimed for life? The government won’t tell us
    for sure. They estimate close to 30,000. Some estimates from credible
    sources are closer to 100,000. They don’t want us to think about the cost
    in blood that some of us are paying while others turn a profit. They won’t even allow the media to show
    us the coffins draped in our flag. Can’t do that, because then people might
    start asking the wrong kinds of questions when they should be watching
    American Idol.

    Meanwhile, the administration cuts veterans’ benefits, denies them decent
    medical treatment and closes VA hospitals.

    BTW, a topic seldom mentioned in the “liberal” media: how many
    living Iraq combat veterans and families of those who died in combat are
    now living just above the poverty line?

    And Dick Cheney, who dodged the Vietnam War but sees fit to send other
    people’s children to their deaths, how much money has he really made since
    we invaded Iraq?

    You can bet that the answers to these questions don’t square well with most
    definitions of patriotism and morality.

    Who is responsible for this insanity?

    Bob, God-fearing patriot
    and paragon of moral virtue that he is, voted for these people, twice. And
    he continues to blindly support them and their hideous little excursion in
    Iraq. Blind faith seems to be what he’s best at. I say ask him, because we
    certainly can’t ask Michael’s son.

    By contrast, you want to get our kids out of the middle of a civil war that
    our corrupt, incompetent, morally bankrupt leaders started, a conflict that
    has virtually no bearing on our national security, and bring them home to
    their families safe and sound before another drop of their blood is flushed
    down the toilet by our President and his cronies.

    Now tell me again, who supports the troops? 


    From: Carey Anthony

    Thu, Apr 24, 2008 at 11:59 PM

    To: A Concerned Friend

    I’ve read this
    three times now and my mouth is still agape. 
    It’s like a Master’s class on this war and indeed the whole
    administration.  It’s obvious there are other issues I need to address with Bob, and this email was the catalyst to unleash those issues.  I can only hope that
    others who read this, who are less closed minded and stubborn than Bob, will
    realize how unimaginably wrong the whole thing is.  I believe history will show that the past
    eight years have been the most damaging in United States history.  No matter who gets elected in the fall, it
    will take decades to repair the damage from this administration.   I think you should run for office!  Thanks…as always, for your friendship, your
    honesty and your insight.

    Time for American Idol

    Carey



  • Youngsters in Heat

    It was a long, hot weekend (100° + today).  Believe it or not,  I’m too tired to write tonight, so I’m just posting a few pics from yesterday and today, and will try to get to bed before 4 AM for once.  I can’t stay up for 29 hours straight like Jad.   (Of course, I’m not 21 anymore either…I’m exactly double his age….we share the same birthday 21 years apart.  The day I turned 21, September 6, 1986; Jad was born.  Kismet?  Ugh.  No wonder I’m tired.  LOL)


    Another gorgeous day on Sunset Blvd.


    Paul & Matt take advantage of the pool at the H.C.


    Arielle soaking up the sun


    Hannah & friends


    Garbo & Ruby trying to stay cool


    Sophia & Daddy


    Jessica and her other babies


    The most diverse park you’ll probably ever find


    No, the bar at The Abbey wasn’t open

        
    Sand Castles & Sesame Street.  The perfect end to a perfect day!

  • Paul & Matt Escape from the Hotel Careyfornia


    Tonight was Paul & Matt’s last night in L.A., so after work we headed downtown for appetizers at The Standard.  We ended up not going to Jimmy Kimmel because we would have had to be there at 5:30 and the show doesn’t start until 9:05 (It’s too bad though, as Neil Patrick Harris was the guest).  So we drove around downtown and I showed them the Disney Concert Hall.  After that, we went to Grauman’s Chinese Theater to watch Harold & Kumar Escape from Guantanamo Bay.  I haven’t laughed so hard in a long long time.  It was a really fun movie.  I can’t say much more without spoiling a lot of the gags, but suffice it to say, Neil Patrick Harris rules.  When the movie was over, Matt & Paul were pretty tired, as it was in the upper 90′s today and they were out and about all day.  So we made the requisite Pinkberry run, and they came home and crashed; leaving the blogging to me.  Sheesh, kids these days.  Tomorrow, we’ll have breakfast before they head to Weho and the Hotel Careyfornia prepares for our next guest! 


    Sorry, I don’t have PhotoShop…just lame old PowerPoint.  LOL.  Anyone know of an easy, free photo lasso tool?

  • Carey the Human Trampoline

    We went to Cole’s Little League game tonight, and I’m a heck of a lot more sore than any of the players!

      

  • French Canadians Meet Thai Elvis

    After work today, I had some errands to run at The Grove, so I stopped by the churrascaria for one of my favorite guilty pleasures, pão de queijo and Guarana (and even ran in to Samuel L. Jackson at Bath & Body Works).

    Afterwards, I went home to prepare for Paul & Matt’s arrival at the H.C.  They flew from Montreal to San Francisco, and then drove down the Pacific Coast Highway today.  They’ve never been to California, in fact, Matt has never even been out of Quebec!  He grew up on a farm outside of Montreal and had never even seen a palm tree!  They were quite exhausted, so we had a quick dinner at Palms Thai with the one and only Thai Elvis, then came home and watched Carly get booted off American Idol.  I’ll be gone all day tomorrow, and they’ll hit the beach and Hollywood.  We’re trying to get tickets for Jimmy Kimmel on Friday.  Good night from La La Land.


    Back atcha Thai Elvis!


    We ordered way too much food


    But had lots of leftovers!


    Happy Birthday Matthias!!


    How old are you???

  • Grow a Pair Facebook!


    When I was in San Francisco the weekend before last, I posted this video on YouTube, that was set to the theme song of our GLY group of friends.  It was a video of the sunset at the beach and of a 3 year old playing soccer with our friends.  The music I used in MY video was from the soundtrack of Rent, a CD I probably bought 5 times before MP3s and iTunes became widely used in the mid 90′s.  I OWN the song….I’ve paid more than enough for it over the years.  So imagine my surprise when, within 5 minutes of uploading the video, I receive the following email from YouTube:

    At first, I was pissed off at the intrusion, but when I thought about it, it was pretty cool.  YouTube had actually reached an agreement with a greedy corporate record company, and if they wanted to place a subtle ad on my video page to advertise the “Rent” soundtrack because people liked the song “Seasons of Love” that I put on MY video, then I guess that’s not so bad.  Right? As long as they let me keep my video, I was OK.

    When I posted the same video my Facebook page though, it was a different story.  It took them a few days, but today, I got this email, and found this when I logged in to Facebook:

    This was my reply to Facebook:

    A closeup:

    Why do I have a feeling this entreaty will fall on deaf ears?? 


    I had dinner with Seth, Jessica and Hannah tonight.  I’ve been on an Indian food kick of late, so we ate at India Sweet & Spices in Los Feliz.  It’s a gawdy cafeteria style restaurant, that plays Bollywood movies on a big screen all day and night.  LOL.  Good food though!  Look how much Hannah has grown in the past year:


    May 2007


    April 2008


    We took the dogs on a walk and I liked this house :)

  • How Did the Helicopter Cross the Road??

    I was out running some errands this morning when Ann & Jorge called the Bloggers Tipline at 800-CAR-EYGLY to tell me that a helicopter was making an emergency landing on San Vicente Blvd.! 

    I quickly rushed over and took a few shots.  We were all standing around wondering how they were going to get it out of there.  A special tow truck perhaps?


    But no tow truck was needed!  They just took a simple car jack, hoisted each let, and stuck a wheel on it.

    Then all they had to do was push it out of the road!

    Afterwards I met Ann & Jorge in the park and took a few shots of Arielle:

  • Cubing With “The Luckiest Kid in the World…”

    Lisa, Joel, Tommy & Andy met me at the Discovery Science Center today, which was hosting the World Cube Association 2008 competition.  Since Tyson is moving to New York next week, this was my last chance to see him for a while.  He competed in the blindfold solve (see video below) and did great as usual.  Tommy really took a liking to the whole “cubefreak” phenomenon.  When asked if he would rather go to the dinosaur exhibit or go meet Tyson, he opted for meeting Tyson.  At one point afterwards, he said to me, “I’m the luckiest kid in the world.  I just got to meet Carey’s famous friend.”  (I had explained to Tommy that Tyson was on Beauty and the Geek and had taught Will Smith how to solve the cube for The Pursuit of Happyness.  That really impressed him!)  After they got home, apparently Tommy donned a blindfold and gave it a try.  LOL.  He was also infatuated by the video of Macky I had on my iPod where he solves the cube with one hand, while juggling 2 cubes with the other.  See for yourself:

    Tommy has now proclaimed himself, “Tommy the Science Nerd”.  It’s going to be an interesting next 12 years.  LOL.  Best of luck in New York Tyson!

    BTW, the movie “Cubefreak” is premiering next Saturday at the Newport Beach Film Festival.  If anyone wants to go, let me know.

  • Burgers With Smeagol the Iraqi Lizard

    Most of the family was busy tonight, but Lisa was nice enough to bring the boys to meet me at Fuddruckers after work.  I got there a little early and struck up a conversation with a young marine named Frank.  He was there with his wife and step-daughter and his pet iguana, Smeagol.  Since you don’t see an iguana on a leash every day, I asked him if I could take a couple of photos.  He graciously obliged, and gave me his email address to send them to him.  Later, we all talked as he played video games with the kids.  At only 20 years old, he was really just a kid himself, and had already completed one tour of duty in Iraq, and was about to leave on his second tour; leaving his wife, step-daughter, and presumably Smeagol, behind.  (I doubt he got the iguana in Iraq, I embellished that part, to make the title of this post more dramatic.  LOL)  He was limping, and I asked him if he had been injured while serving, but he told me it was a skateboard accident.    “No fucking hadji is going to hurt me.”, was his response, which was remarkably similar to how the kids in the movie Stop Loss spoke.  Nearly verbatim in fact.  (I asked him if he’d seen it, he hadn’t.)  I’m troubled by the hate of other cultures we’re breeding in our military.  It’s probably nothing new though.  Nonetheless, he was a charming young man, who like James and Jimmy, I’m glad to have on our side.

    From www.lewrockwell.com:

    There are basically
    two types of soldiers in most units. There are the career guys who
    have more than a decade invested and have seen so many commanders
    like this they believe them to be the norm rather than the exception.
    Then, there are the young soldiers who have fallen for the line
    about killing as many of these “rag heads” as possible
    because of 9/11 and protecting “the folks back home.”
    Soldiers, who see this war for what it is and voice those thoughts,
    are reported up the line as malcontents and enemy sympathizers.
    The vast majority of soldiers would rather live through the lies
    and atrocities than be labeled a traitor and the ramifications of
    that label once they return home. So, many just hope to survive
    and get the hell out of the military and away from the madmen who
    lead them.

    This
    nation, its political leadership and the vast majority of its religious
    leaders, have thrown away their moral compass and replaced it with
    a rabid nationalism unseen on the world stage since Germany in the
    1930s. Torture and murder of hundreds of thousands are readily accepted,
    as long as it is done for the graven image called the State. Eventually,
    unless we take a different path, the number of those tortured and
    murdered will include those in this country who refuse to submit
    to the State as it pursues its “mission
    from God.”
    The venom readily spews forth from the shills
    for the State now, building a hate and resentment in the masses
    for any who would challenge the official position of perpetual war
    for peace.

    Since
    our nation and its civilian leaders have lost their ability to judge
    right from wrong, why should we expect anything different from our
    military?

    On a side note, my crazy neighbor, who I blogged about a while back, finally moved out.  But not before leaving this note, on my other neighbor’s door!  (Not mine, thank goodness.)  I would love to know what it said.  LOL.

  • Let Today Embrace the Past with Remembrance – and the Future with Longing


    Carey Anthony 



    Thinking of you on this solemn day…
    2 messages


    From: Carey Anthony







    Wed, Apr 16, 2008 at 4:00 AM


    To: Sabine

    Please know that I love you.

    If you need to talk today, don’t hesitate to call.

    xoxo

    Carey




    From: Bine

    Wed, Apr 16, 2008 at 4:05 AM

    To:
    Carey Anthony

    thanks! Means a lot!

    it is harder than I thought. receiving all these e-mails from
    friends at Virginia Tech of what is going on in Blacksburg. Feels like I am at the
    wrong place. Hard to focus! All the memories and with it all the
    flashbacks of emotions. Painful

    talk to you later. 

    Bine


    I’m reposting my blog entry from one year ago today:

    Monday, April 16, 2007

    A Terrible Tragedy Hits Home – Days 1-3

    virginiatech


    What follows is a
    first hand account of this weeks tragedy by my friend Sabine,
    who thankfully lived through it.  Please take the time to read
    this.  It’s terribly sad, but also hopeful.  I
    appreciate your condolences to my friend and the loved ones she
    lost.  She will be arriving in California tomorrow night, and
    I know she will be overwhelmed by the kindness of strangers. 
    Thank you. –Carey


    “He was an injustice
    collector”

    Day 3 -
    Wednesday

    I’m heading to the aiport now to pick up
    Sabine.  Thank you ALL so much for your messages, comments and
    prayers.  I will pass them on tonight…

    She’s finally here.  I hope she can
    begin healing,


    Day 2 -
    Tuesday

    ———- Forwarded message
    ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 17, 2007
    9:48 PM
    Subject: the second day
    To: nye
    group

    After a day of immense sadness and an
    emotional roller coaster I am finally home.
    I have spent most
    of the day with friends from our department. Today the shock has
    settled and the magnitude of Monday’s event hit all of us. Especially
    when we went back on campus to attend the convocation. Everybody from
    our group couldn’t help but sobbing. We hugged each other and we tried
    to comfort each other, which indeed helped.

    The convocation was good for
    our school especially the speech given by Nikki Giovanni who talked
    about our morning and our capability to move on.
    After that we
    went back to a friends place to be together and share the time and to
    support each other. One of our friends, went to visit Gil, who has been
    released from the hospital already, and to talk to him. And for you to
    see, what an amazing person Gil is:
    He said today, one day
    after he had been shot, that he is not angry at the shooter, that he
    forgives him. this was not only his fault, it was also the society’s
    fault our inability to help human beings who are in pain. He forgave
    the VT-administration, which failed to close down the campus after the
    first 2 homicides. But most importantly he wants to thank his
    classmate, who was shot just seconds before him (as of now, I don’t
    know the name), and who fell on top of Gil, so when the shooter came
    back, his classmate was shot again and this way saved Gil’s life. Gil
    said, “he has not only saved my life but the life of my wife, the life
    of my son, 
    the
    life of my parents”. Gil is so much more at peace than we all are. No,
    he has not yet left the shootings behind, but he has already started to
    move on.

    Maybe you have heard that tuesday night
    was a candlelight vigil on the drill field of VT. Our group did not go
    there but stayed at the friends house where we organized our own
    candlelight vigil. It is not that we didn’t want to show our sympathy
    with the others, but as our departments mourns the loss of 10
    students/faculty, we just wanted to be closer to them…somehow.

    Our classes have been canceled for the rest of the
    week and Norris Hall will be closed for the remainder of the semester.
    Some of our professors have already announced, that they are not going
    to finish their classes anymore, they simply can’t.

    Many people from our group of friends are heading
    to home to get some healing time, and Youenn has offered me to pay for
    a ticket to Providence (thank you so much for this generous offer).
    First I thought I needed to stay here, but after today, being so
    emotionally drained, I decided to leave Blacksburg for a while. I am
    not going north though, I guess I am ready for some sun and ocean (well
    and the friends/husband at the west coast, too). Carey, the master of
    frequent flyer miles has gotten me a ticket to LA tomorrow afternoon
    (Thank you again).

    I again want to thank you all for
    your help, support, phone calls and love. I just hope everybody here at
    VT has a similar circle of friends…

    love

    bine



    From: Carey

    Sent: Tuesday, April 17, 2007 10:03
    PM
    To:
    Sabine
    Subject: RE: the second
    day

    You never need to thank me for loving you my friend! See
    you tomorrow. xoxo
     
    Carey

    Sabine was interviewed by one of the bigger papers in
    Germany this morning.  Sorry if you don’t read German


    Our “GLY” family in Brazil in 2002


    Update 6:56 PM PDT:

    Why Outsourcing is
    Bad

    After Sabine called me at noon, I called United
    Airlines to book a flight.  I was a 1K flyer with United for
    over 12 years.  What that means, is that I flew 100,000 miles
    or more, every year, on United Airlines.  With this status,
    you would think I would have some influence with the airline, or at
    receive some perks even though I switched jobs and do not travel near
    as much anymore.

    When I called United, I was routed to
    a call center in India.  In the past, 1K customers
    could call a number where a human being actually answered the
    phone.  That stopped on 9/11.  When I confirmed that
    I was indeed speaking to a customer service rep. in India, I told them
    what I was looking to accomplish.  I had already checked all
    of the flights out of Roanoke, VA (the closest airport to Blacksburg,
    VA where the massacre happened) and all of the flights were booked for
    frequent flyer seats.  I told United that I had assumed they
    would have opened up more seats because of the tragedy, and the
    customer service rep. said, “What tragedy”.  I told her
    briefly what had happened, and she said there was nothing she could
    do.  I asked to be transferred to a supervisor, and no one was
    available, so I ended the call.

    Now, keep in mind that I am used to getting what
    I want.  Traveling that much, for as many years as I did,
    taught me very well how the system worked and how to work the
    system.  A few minutes later, when I called back, I was
    speaking to someone in the Philippines.  I immediately asked
    to speak with a supervisor and I was transferred.  I then
    explained to the supervisor what had transpired, and asked him if he
    was aware of the tragedy in the U.S.  He told me that he was,
    and that he was sorry for all the victims.

    Now I’m not ethnocentric enough to expect
    everyone in the world to know about, let alone even care about what
    happened at Virginia Tech. yesterday, but I would
    expect a U.S. based carrier to inform their call centers around the
    world that an event had occurred that would change the pattern of air
    travel temporarily out of a few cities closest to the event. 
    I calmly explained this to the supervisor in the Philippines, and he
    agreed with me.  I asked him to abandon normal protocol and
    open up some frequent flyer seats for my friend Sabine. 
    Again, I know the system very well, and I
    know what is possible and what is not. (Most everything is possible by
    the way!)

    After I had secured flights to and from Los
    Angeles for tomorrow thru Sunday, I asked that he transfer me to United
    Airlines Corporate Headquarters in Chicago.  He said
    he could not transfer me, but he would see if he could get
    someone there on the line and conference me in.  It took a
    while, but before long, I was on a conference call with the Vice
    President of marketing for United Airlines.  I explained the
    situation and how the supervisor in the Philippines had helped
    me.  I also said that the majority of people affected by this
    tragedy would not know how to or, in their grief, be able to work the
    system like I did.  I told him in the nicest way that just
    like his industry changed after 9/11 that the average consumer’s world
    changed with the advent of blogging.

    Never before in history, has the individual
    consumer been able to have such a massive effect on the
    world.  Lately I have noticed how my blog is coming up as the
    first or second hit on certain Google searches.  The reason
    for this is that I post very frequently and tag my entries
    well.  I told him that if enough people were to blog about
    United Airlines indifference to this tragedy at their call centers
    around the world, that they could have a public relations nightmare on
    their hands, and that I would be more than willing to make that
    happen.

    I suspect those of you who know me, know what
    happened next.  The Vice President of Marketing for United
    Airlines promised me that he would notify call center
    supervisors via systemwide email, that customers flying out of
    airports within 2 hours of Blacksburg, Virginia would be offered
    special fares and accommodations for the next 2 weeks.  To be
    fair, they had already instructed individual airports in the affected
    area to accommodate travelers affected by the tragedy.  What
    they did not do however, in this new global economy, was thing
    globally.  The Internet has made the world a much smaller
    place after all.  Walt Disney knew this 50 years ago, even
    before the Internet.

    It’s a world of laughter, a word
    of tears.  It’s a world of hope, and a world of
    fears.  There’s so much that we share, that it’s time we’re
    aware, it’s a small world after all.

    bine

    Me and my friend Sabine last
    Christmas 


    Update 12:14 PM PDT:  Sabine just called me to say
    that 10 people from her department were killed including her
    professor.  She wants to come to Los Angeles ASAP as students
    are leaving the campus in droves, as it’s just unbearable to be
    there.  I will be looking for plane reservations from Roanoke
    to Los Angeles for her tonight, and hopefully she can be here by
    tomorrow, at least physically away from all of that terrible, terrible
    sadness.


    Day 1 -
    Monday

    At 7:10 this morning, I got an email from one of
    my best friends, Sabine.  We have spent New Year’s Eve
    together for the past 10 years all over the world. 
    She is from Germany, but she is getting her PhD at Virginia
    Tech University in Blacksburg, Virginia.  I’m happy to report
    that she is alive and was not injured today, though sadly, some of her
    friends were killed.  In the days and weeks to follow, we will
    find out more about the worst mass shooting in U.S. history. 
    For now however, we remember the victims of this terrible
    tragedy.  What follows, is the complete thread of emails I
    received from Sabine starting early this morning.  The emails
    are listed in chronological order in Pacific Time, which is 3 hours
    behind Eastern Time in Virginia.  Note the times on the
    emails, and at first, indeed the first few hours, so little was known
    about what was happening on campus.  Sabine actually makes
    light of it, as she forgot to bring her lunch with her today. 
    The second series of shootings occurred 2 hours and 20 minutes after
    the first, yet the campus remained open and students went to
    class.  Sabine also appended one of her messages with the
    first and second emails sent to everyone on campus.  Note the
    times on these emails, and how progressively worse the situation
    gets.  Sabine was clearly in shock, and still trying to make
    light of the situation despite how scared she was.  She didn’t
    want her loved ones to worry.  Interestingly enough, the
    university had 2 bomb threats last Friday.  Last year an
    escaped convict also rampaged the school, killing two police
    officers.  Sabine still does not know how many of her friends
    were killed.  As I write these words the death toll is 33,
    with many more injured.  I have tried to call her several
    times today, and the cell networks are jammed.  As you read
    these emails, please keep the victims and their friends and families in
    your thoughts. –Carey


    From: Sabine
    To:
    Carey
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:10
    AM
     
    we got evacuated from our buildings due
    to a bomb threat and now we have
    a gunman…never a dull
    moment in Virginia.

    that is the last update on the
    situation here on campus….craaazy!

    bine

    P.S: And people wonder, why
    I am not finishing up with my thesis
    ;))


    From: Carey 
    To: Sabine
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:14
    AM
    Didn’t this happen
    last year too???
    Stay safe. xoxo

    Carey


    From: Sabine
    To:
    Carey
    Date: Mon, Apr 16,
    2007 at 7:18 AM
    Well, not the bomb
    threat, that is an exciting new feature ;))

    The only
    thing I am annoyed by is: I didn’t bring any lunch with me, and now I

    am not allowed to leave the building and will be starving
    here….well, lucky
    me, I do have some “natural reserves” so I
    have a higher chance of surviving

    :))
    bine


    From:
    Carey
    To: Sabine
    Date: Mon, Apr 16,
    2007 at 7:24 AM

     
    What a
    nightmare!  Are you home?
    You should finish
    your PhD
    at UCLA.  Los Angeles seems safer!
    Did
    you see the pics of Bassam and Mariana?
     


    From: Sabine
    To:
    Carey
    Date: Mon, Apr 16,
    2007 at 7:43 AM
    No, I am at
    school…quite disturbing the whole thing!
    Check CNN…already
    one dead…crazy



    From: Sabine
    To: Carey,
    Eva, Carolina
    Date: Mon, Apr 16,
    2007 at 8:24 AM
    Subject: Fwd:
    Second Shooting Reported; Police have one gunman in
    custody
    ok..getting a bit
    nervous. He crossed campus and moves towards us. Norris
    Hall
    is the building right next to ours, they better catch the
    second one quickly

    plus I am hungry and I need
    food..;)


    ———-
    Forwarded message ———-
    From:
    Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 9:02 AM
    Subject:
    evacuation
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina;
    Youenn
     
    Our
    VT-server must have collapsed, I cannot get any e-mails from there
    anymore.

    They are evacuating us now. It is quite
    some chaos here.

    I have to say, this situation
    scares the shit out of me…but definitely makes up for a good story
    ;))

    bine


    Forwarded message from Virginia Tech Office of the Dean
    Unirel@vt.edu 
    Date: Mon, 16 Apr
    2007 09:50:07 -0400
    From:
    Unirel@vt.edu
    Reply-To: Unirel@vt.edu
    Subject: PLease stay
    put
     To: Multiple recipients
    <
    LISTSERV@LISTSERV.VT.EDU>

    A gunman is
    loose on campus.  Stay in buildings until further notice.
     Stay away
    from all windows

    —–
    End forwarded message —–


    —–
    Forwarded message from
    Unirel@vt.edu —–
     
     Date: Mon, 16 Apr 2007 10:52:45 -0400
     
     From:
    Unirel@vt.edu
    Reply-To: Unirel@vt.edu

     Subject: Second Shooting Reported; Police have
    one gunman in custody
         To:
    Multiple recipients <
    LISTSERV@LISTSERV.VT.EDU
    >

    In addition to an earlier
    shooting today in West Ambler Johnston, there has been
    a
    multiple shooting with multiple victims in Norris
    Hall.

    Police and EMS are on the
    scene.

    Police have one shooter in custody and as
    part of routine police procedure, they
    continue to search for
    a second shooter.

    All people in university buildings
    are required to stay inside until
    further
    notice.

    All entrances to campus are
    closed.

    —– End forwarded message —–


    From:  Bine
    Sent: Monday,
    April 16, 2007 2:57 PM
    To: Undisclosed
    Recipients

    Subject: Today’s
    Shootings 
     
    ok, for
    all of those who are reading about the VT-shootings online and worry
    about me. I am fine. We were evacuated.

    I am hanging
    out with friends here in our house, nobody wants to stay alone right
    now. Everybody is under shock. 22 people were shot. The second shooting
    happened in the building next to ours, which also belongs to our
    department, therefore we don’t know yet, if any of our friends are
    among the victims. Cell phones are not working and we are still in
    shock!

    I will keep you
    posted

    bine


    From:  Bine
    Sent: Monday, April 16,
    2007 3:01 PM
    To: Carey;
    Eva; Carolina; Youenn
    Subject:
    Today’s Shootings
     
    …I am just
    getting more and more bizarre information and you are probably are not
    interested in all the details, but it kind of helps me putting it out
    there, this way, I feel it is more real. We are all sitting here numb
    and shock…all of us want to cry but we can’t.

    A
    friend of mine, Gil, who was in the classroom was shot in the head but
    was able to call. By the time he called, he hadn’t realized that he was
    shot and told his wife, that he was ok. He said that most of the others
    where shot including a professor from our department, then he
    collapsed. He is right now in the hospital and in surgery.

    Another friend of mine, who NEVER skips class, skipped it
    today!!

    Again, I am not sure, why I am telling you
    all this, but  it helps.

    My friends and I
    are sitting here and feel so lucky!

    Thank you all
    for your concern and help…it really helps


    ———-
    Forwarded message ———-
    From:
    Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 3:07 PM
    Subject:
    evacuation
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina;
    Youenn
     
    Thank you all again for the support and all the good
    wishes.

    This is the most inconceivable, hardest and
    scariest situation I have ever been in.

    The thing
    that drives us crazy is that we cannot get a hold of all our friends.
    And it is getting harder and harder to stay hopeful and optimistic. It
    has been confirmed now, that one of our professors has been shot. No
    news on my friend Gil, they say the surgery will take at least 3 more
    hours. We heard that they wanted to fly him to a specialist in Richmond
    but they couldn’t. Due to the high winds they can’t used helicopters.

    aaaaaaaah, I want to scream…everybody here sits and can’t
    fathom what was going on. Some started crying now but most of us just
    sit here and we can’t, we are still in shock and numb.

    We also just heard, that it is not for sure if this
    was really only one shooter. Blacksburg police told us to stay inside.
    I am not sure, if this are only precautions or if this is really a
    threat.

    We sit here and just can”t believe how
    lucky we were. All of us, have classes in Norris. All of us were so
    scared, because suddenly we were afraid that the bomb threats might
    have been more severe and as my building was already evacuated on
    friday we all started to make connections and getting really scared.

    ok, I just got another phonecall, and we heard that
    another friend of ours, Dan, has been shot and killed.


    ———- Forwarded message ———-
    From:
    Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 5:17 PM
    Subject:
    evacuation
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina;
    Youenn
     

    we
    finally couldn’t stand it anymore and went to a hospital to see if our
    friends are listed but we only heard about two and they were in
    critical condition, on of them Gil.
    There was also one
    friend, Nathanial, and he told the most horrible story, I don’t know
    how he will ever be able to live with this
    memory.

    Nathanial was in one of the classrooms the
    shooter went in and he reported the following:

    The
    shooter entered the classroom, shot the professor in the head and
    then  every single student in the classroom, all of them in
    the head…all of them but Nathanial. He stood 2 feet away from him but
    he didn’t shoot him.  Then the shooter left, went  on
    to the next classroom shot people there and came back. Nathanial, in
    shock still in the classroom. The shooter tried to spot everybody who
    was still moving and shot them again…but again spared
    Nathanial…then he left.

    No deaths are confirmed
    yet, and the only thing we know for sure is, that Gil and Nathanial
    have survived but we  are sitting here and have no idea how
    to  deal with this news.

    We are all trying
    to comfort each other and stay sane!

    Again my
    friends, thank you for all your support,help and love! It  is
    much appreciated and really
    needed.

    bine

    p.s.: the phones are
    not really working, it is hard to get through but  Iwill try
    to  stay in touch with all of you as much as I  can.


     
    ———- Forwarded message
    ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007
    11:37 PM
    Subject: last update for
    tonight
    To: nye group

    My roommate Lee
    and I went finally home and try to get some
    sleep/rest.

    Throughout the night, we got more bad
    news about other friends who got killed during this insanity.

    Campus is closed for tomorrow but there will be a
    community service at 2 pm on Campus.
    I want to go there, but
    I am a bit scared to go back on campus. I don’t fear that there is
    another shooting, I fear facing the sadness and the insanity of this
    incident. I am scared, really scared.
    What shocks most is the
    randomness. Why got some people shot and why were other
    spared?
    Why?

    Again my friends, thank you so much
    for your help and support.
    You have no idea how much this
    helps

     


    From: Carey 

    To: Bine
    Date: Tue, Apr 17, 2007 at 12:30
    AM
    Subject: last update for
    tonight

    Do try to at least rest.  If
    you need to talk in the middle of the night (which is now I guess),
    don’t hesitate to call.  You may never understand why some
    were spared while others were lost.  The best you can do is
    carry on.  For you will always carry on, and we will keep on
    speaking your name.  Some things change, some stay the same;
    like the love of our family and our deep bonds with each
    other.  God bless.

    Carey
    xo

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