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  • GLY Easter on 3 Continents & Welcome Geneva Elena

    What’s invisible and smells like carrots?



    Bunny farts!!


    Happy Easter from Munich
    3 messages

    From: The GLY Gang
    To: Carey Anthony

    Hi, from sunny “Monaco”.
    As long as it’s not raining or snowing it’s beergarden time here.
    We had fun, strolling through the city, having Weißwurst for breakfast and
    watching the Eisbach surfers in almost freezing water.

    Not to mention the very expensive but delicious chocolate we had while going
    for a walk in the English Garden. But the most valuable times we have when
    sitting around the dining table at the “Casa Kuhn” eating delicious food
    cooked and served by our fantastic hosts Beate and Matthias, eating,
    drinking and talking until the early morning hours.
    In between trying to call the West coast-Crew, which apart from Carey, never
    answers. Therefore Youenn has to leave very philosophical messages on their
    answering machines. So it seems that we won’t be able to find out if there
    is one more Ph.D. hanging around in the Disneyland for adults called Santa
    Barbara.

    This said, we all wish you a Happy Easter, lots of fun and hope to see you
    very soon!

    Enjoy!


    From: Carey Anthony
    To:
    “Matthias”, “Beate”, “Bine”, “Youenn”, “Alan”

    Friends!

    Speaking of Monaco, you all do indeed look like part of the GLY Royal Family.
    Bine, gives Princess Caroline a run for her money with her gorgeous dark locks and dazzling smile.
    Beate is clearly channeling Grace Kelly in her olive coat fresh off the runway.
    Matthias has all the royal je ne sais quoi of Prince Albert with a full head of hair!
    Alan looks like the cherubic love child of Princess Stephanie and some dashing race car driver.
    And King Youenn makes Ranier look like an impostor.  His royal command over his subjects oozes through every pixel of the photographs.  He clearly rules with an iron fist and a warm heart.
    All hail King Youenn.  Long live the King!

    Love,

    A loyal subject in a the far away outpost of West Hollywood
    Carey


    On Tue, Mar 25, 2008 at 3:51 AM, youenn@xxxxx.edu> wrote:

    Carey,
    I love your writing. Maybe some day we should work together on a book…
    I had a wonderful time in Munchen, as you could see, and I need to rest at work now…
    I
    do not know if I told you, but I have a sabbatical next year (Spring
    semester 2009), which means that I will finally finish my second book
    and visit friends. No winter for Youenn…
    Take care,
    Youenn


    From: Carey
    To: Youenn

    My Fabulous French Friend,

    Working with you on a book would be like Dr. Seuss working with Victor
    Hugo!  Suffice it to say though, I’m flattered, and you are ALWAYS
    welcome at the Hotel Careyfornia/Writers Sanctuary!

    BTW, is this book going to be in English?

    GLY!
    Carey
    xo




    Happy Easter from Rio de Janeiro

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    From: Joelle & Adriana
    To: Carey, Beate, Matthias, Bine, Youenn

    Oi, queridos!
     
    Our weather was a little different than Munich’s today, but Dri, Caique, their mothers, and I did our share of beer, caipirinha, and coffee drinking as well.  We went for a lovely walk on the beach in Barra da Tijuca, enjoyed an incredible and enormous meal of squid, crab, and shrimp, and finished the evening with drinks on Copacabana as the nearly-full moon rose out of the Atlantic.
     
    Naturally, you came up in conversations many times.  Hope everyone had a fabulous Easter.
     
    Beijos,
    Joelle


    From: Carey Anthony
    To:
    “Joelle”, “Adriana”

    Saudades, Girls From Ipanema!

    Seeing Mom Diversi on the beach in Rio was better than any Easter basket!  Muito obrigado.  Please send abracos fortes to Silvia and  grande beijos to all of you.

    Easter in L.A. was spectacular and hot.  I just posted a bunch of pictures on my blog, so you can see just how hot it was.

    I miss you all, and wish I could be there with you and all the morsels.  I know Bine will be there soon, so keep the pictures coming!

    GLY,

    Carey
    xoxo



    My new cousin Geneva  Elena with big sister Athena.
    She was 9 lbs. 5 oz. and 22 inches long.
    Welcome to the world cuz!

  • Valentines, Hurricanes, Kiddy Porn & an Obituary

    If you live in the U.S. you have to try this great service called:

    It’s completely free voice mail, and you can set it up in seconds.  (There’s no obligation, and you can always switch back to your regular voice mail if you want).  It allows you to have different voice mail greetings for anyone you want.  Personalize your own greeting for different people or groups, or use choose from hundreds of hilarious greeting that you can change at any time, online or on your phone.  You can even set up nasty greetings for telemarketers and toll free #’s.  Also, it’s easy to make someone you don’t want to talk to anymore think your phone’s been disconnected.  LOL.

    So right now, if you call my phone, you’ll hear this:

    Now, since we don’t get hurricanes in Southern California, I thought it was pretty funny, right?  If it said “Due to the earthquake in the area…”, that might be pushing the envelope (Ryan!).  LOL.  One of the neatest things about YouMail though is that I can listen to the messages on my phone, or online.  AND, I can embed them in my blog.  I guess I should probably change the hurricane message though.  Case in point, take a listen to these:
    Voicemail You’ll Love
    Share this …

    Holy shit!  Call your Dad!

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    Share this …

    You friggin’ dork!

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    Share this …
    Survived the hurricane!

    I got some cute Valentine’s messages from Tommy though:

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    Share this …
    What kind of shoes do you make out of banana peels??

    Voicemail You’ll Love
    Share this …
    How do you make an elephant float??

    Speaking of Tommy, tonight when I went over there for dinner he asked me if I could look on the computer to “track Cupid”.  You see, every Christmas Eve, we use the Santa NORAD Tracker to trace Santa Claus as he delivers presents around the world.  I thought it was really cute that he wanted me to use the same “technology” to track Cupid on Valentine’s Day.

    So after dinner I sat at the computer with him and typed this into Google with no luck:

    Next, I typed this, and got this:

    Looks innocuous enough, right???  WRONG!!  With a six year old at my side, I clicked the second link only to be confronted with seven gay tongues a rimmin’.


    CENSORED!!  (If you like gay porn, go for it)

    As I fumbled to quickly close the browser, Tommy started laughing at the “not bashful” naked people.  I can see the therapy bills now!

    So that was my Valentine’s Day.  How pathetic am I that my only Valentines this year came from my little cousins and my college Finance professor (who I’m good friends with now, LOL)?  Here are some historic photos:

    Why are these photos historic you ask?  Well, they’re the last photos that will ever be taken with my poor little Canon SD850.  It got some sand in it at the beach last weekend, and tonight the lens got stuck, and broke. 

    (All due respect and credits to Jeff M.)

    On February 14, 2008 at
    approximately 8:00 PM,
    Carey’s Canon SD850 was pronounced dead after a short battle with beach
    sand.  Last weekend, the camera was busily snapping away at its usual
    pace, when unbeknownst to Carey, some grains of sand nefariously crept into his pocket, invading the most delicate lens
    orifice and taking root.  The cough began Sunday night, and by Monday the
    camera’s breathing was heavy and labored.  Screws were loosened to
    relieve some pressure and a high powered air can was brought in from
    Culver City.  Despite a dedicated international team consulting with
    Carey around the clock, the camera succumbed to the gritty nemesis
    Thursday evening, surrounded by family.  His last picture in fact was
    of Carey’s cousin Darlene and his Aunty LuLu kissing his cousin Tommy. 

    The SD850 was preceded in death by his older brother SD800 and
    grandparents Canon AE1 Program and Canon EOS Elan IIE.  In lieu of
    flowers, the family respectfully requests Paypal donations to a new
    Canon G9 Fund set up in Carey’s name.  Burial arrangements have not
    been made public, for fear of intrusive paparazzi.  Rest in pieces.


    I took this picture of the Valentine Lisa gave me with my cell.  Cute huh?

    And finally two Valentine videos.  One is of little Colin and his Daddy.  I could watch him wiggle down this slide all  day.  This little boy is PURE LOVE.  The second well, just watch. 



    Post Script:  I spoke to Sabine via Skype last night and was reminded that the Virginia Tech anniversary was coming up in two months.  Then today, it happened again.  Being from Chicago, I had many friends who went to Northern 20 years ago, and we used to visit there occasionally (I went to Eastern).  Just knowing what Sabine went thru last year, my heart goes out to the folks back home affected by this.  I went back and read her first hand accounts I first published last year, and they still give me chills. 

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     Virginia Tech Days 4-7

  • Inside Cho’s Mind

     

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    I would be remiss not to write about the news today about Virginia Tech.

    After months of investigation into the shootings at Virginia Tech, Gov. Tom Kaine of Virginia released a much anticipated report this morning by a panel of experts he convened.

    The bottom line: The killer, Seung Hui Cho, had been mentally ill since childhood. Over the years, his family and others had gotten him help — including counseling and medication. But when Cho arrived at Virginia Tech, the systems failed. Read more…

    Bassam and I talked about this tonight.  My take on it was basically, why did they have to commission a study and spend all that money just to conclude what everyone knew the day it happened?  Of course the university should have responded sooner.  Of course the “system” should have recognized the extent of Cho’s mental illness and gotten him the help he so desperately needed.  And of course, he should not have been able to obtain a gun.  I wish they would have spent the money figuring out a plan to send text messages instantly to every student and faculty member, warning them of any potential danger.  That shouldn’t be too hard to figure out in the 21st Century!

    Never Forget

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    We Are One

    One need only read my friend Sabine’s first hand accounts of that fateful morning, and look at the timestamps on the emails, to realize that the university was quite late in responding to the shootings.  Had systemwide emails gone out, and if even 1 out of 20 students had received the emails telling them to stay inside where they were and lock the doors, word would have spread, and lives may have been saved.

    Unfortunately, today’s news also brought out the right wing nutjobs who continue to insist that, had the other students been allowed to carry concealed weapons, that the death toll never would have been so high.  This kind of moronic logic absolutely boggles my mind.

    So again, we pay tribute to those who lost their lives, and those they left behind.  Rest in Peace.

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  • Help!! Papal Infallability, Burning the Midnight Oil & The Lion King??

     

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    Help, I need somebody,
    Help, not just anybody,
    Help, you know I need someone, help.

    When I was younger, so much younger than today,
    I never needed anybody’s help in any way.
    But now these days are gone, I’m not so self assured,
    Now I find I’ve changed my mind and opened up the doors.

    Help me if you can, I’m feeling down
    And I do appreciate you being round.
    Help me, get my feet back on the ground,
    Won’t you please, please help me…

    Why have I reproduced these Beatle’s lyrics?  Because this song happened to be the #1 song the day I was born.  While hardly scientific, everyone I know who’s gone to this website to figure out “their” #1 birth song has found it telling in some way (Except for Lloyd, whose song was “I’m Too Sexy”.  LOL j/k).   I’m going to be 42 in a few weeks, and the older I get the more I realize how much help I need, and that I can’t do it all.  I’m sure this isn’t a big revelation to anyone who’s not in their teens or twenties, but as cliche as it is, it’s true.

    I got a call today from Billy.  He had spent quite some time composing a response to my “Godless Sodomites” post from a few days ago.  Unfortunately, as several of my friends outside of Xanga have reported, they have left comments only to find them lost in the Xangaverse.  Just a reminder, if you don’t have a Xanga account (which is free and doesn’t require anything besides an email address, no blogging necessary), the way to post comments is:

    • Click on ”Give eProps or Post a Comment” at the end of the entry
    • Choose “Anonymous”
    • Fill in your name, real or fake, no last names necessary if you prefer
    • Fill in your email.  No one will see it but me, and if you don’t want me knowing it, make up a fake one
    • If you have a website you can fill that in, it’s optional
    • Leave your comment (It’s a good idea to “copy” it, just in case something goes wrong, you can always paste it into an email or something.  My email address is careygly@gmail.com
    • Type in the “Code You See Below” If you get it wrong, it will give you another chance.  This is to prevent SPAM comments
    • Click “Submit”.  Remember to copy your comments before your submit, in case it doesn’t work for some reason.

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    The gay Pope in his Prada slippers (boyfriend not pictured)

    Anyway, Bill called to relay his comments to me directly.  As always, his points were well taken.  It is easy to pick on anyone with extreme views, be they evangelical Christians or radical right wing activists.  As he is a devout Catholic, he urged me to investigate my claims about the Catholic church and the Pope’s recent proclamation.  Here’s what Chicago’s Francis Cardinal George wrote recently in the Catholic New World News:

    The Catholic Church understands herself as enjoying, only through Jesus’ own will and love, all the gifts that he left for his people. Other Churches and faith communities enjoy most or some of these gifts, depending on their history and their own self-understanding. We should try to understand people as they understand themselves. Many sincere followers of Jesus Christ reject the Catholic Church’s understanding of who the Church is. Some think Catholics are not even Christian; others say the Pope is the anti-Christ. They don’t want to be Catholic, and that should be respected. But the Catholic understanding of Church should also be respected. It has a two thousand year history. It seems somewhat strange that only the Catholic Church’s self-understanding should be a matter of public indignation.

    Finally, the recent statement of the Holy See says nothing about any individual’s eternal salvation. The linkage of the Church’s self-understanding about her visible gifts to conclusions about the invisible gift of an individual’s salvation is a different question. Nor does the Church’s teaching about her objective gifts draw any conclusions about an individual’s subjective holiness. One can be baptized and still sin; one can be ordained and still betray the Lord. Nevertheless, both baptism and ordination remain sacramental means of holiness.  Read more…

    My cousin wrote me today about a family in her neighborhood.  They have 3 beautiful children, who I took picture of at Dave’s memorial service a couple of weeks ago.  The father was recently laid off of his job due to the slowing local housing economy.  A few weeks later he was diagnosed with bladder cancer.  His kidney’s are infected and he will need them both to withstand the chemotherapy. 

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    We all need help.  Whether you believe in prayer, Karma, the power of positive thought, the “Golden Rule” or even “The Secret“, there is much sadness in this world, but love is still the strongest force we know, and for my cousin right now, ”Love Thy Neighbor” takes on an especially poignant meaning.  I like how Lewis sums up religion, as the “pole that supports the soul”.


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    Finally a shout out to Sabine, who, after a terribly trying year academically and emotionally, is submitting her Master’s Thesis tomorrow.  She’s been burning the midnight oil for weeks now, and starting tomorrow she’ll be able to get some rest and concentrate on her upcoming nuptials.  Let me be the first to congratulate her, and let her know how very proud our entire group of friends is of her.  Congratulations Bine, on a job well done!  GLY!  This will be you in a week:

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    And this will be you, once you finally (it’s about time), get a job in the real world and stop being a perpetual student.  I still don’t know the name of your degree, I just know you’ll be standing around in rivers a lot!  Have fun!!

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    So in honor of Bine, here’s the Song of the Day, appropriately titled “Rivers Run Red” by the even more appropriately titled band “Midnight Oil”.  Congrats!

     

    Finally, if you haven’t already seen this, it is amazing and well worth the next 8 minutes of your time:

     

  • Beautiful Bine’s Birthday

    I will be taking a couple of days off blogging, but this is surely the most important entry of the week.  All of my friends, and regular readers of this space know about my friend Sabine, Bine for short.  You know what a tough time she had this spring at Virginia Tech.  You know that her inimitable style and always positive attitude have gotten her, and indeed our entire group of friends, through the best and the worst of times.  She is a breath of fresh air in an otherwise polluted world.  She approaches everything she does with passion and fervor, and is the glue that bonds us all together.  Marcelo put it better than I could in an email to her this morning:

    Querida amiga!  Happy birthday to you!!!  And thank God and Carey, if they are not the same dude, for the Yahoo reminders :)  I hope you are well, healthier, with most of your toenails in place, and getting closer to finishing your data collection with the poo tanks!  May you keep on blessing all of us with your sweetness, solid character, most excellent sense of humor, and, of course, good stories!  Beijos carinhosos, marcelo

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    What you may not know however, is that she is my wife!  Yes, it’s true.  We were married in a small civil ceremony in Italy on August 19, 2000.  The ceremony was officiated by the great great grandniece of the Red Baron.  Her name was Baroness Andrea Von Richthofen.  Mick was the maid of honor, Miggl the best man and Eva the flower girl.  Now, some background:

    I met Sabine at the aforementioned Marcelo’s house in Piracicaba Brazil in 1997.  That Christmas many people had converged at the “Casa Diversi”; both friends of Marcelo and friends of his sister Adriana.  Many of us did not know each other, but we all soon became great friends, and began our tradition of traveling together for every New Year’s.  I was “homeless” at the time, traveling the world with my job, all expenses paid.  One day, we were all sitting by the pool in the backyard eating mangoes as they fell off the trees, and I was telling this assembled group of new friends my life story.  At the end, Sabine said, “Honey, I should marry you.  What a great life!”  To which I responded, “Honey, the only way I would ever marry you, is if we were in Florence Italy, at San Miniato at sunset, overlooking the Ponte Vecchio!”  We all laughed.

    Wouldn’t you know it, that three years later, we all found ourselves in Florence, Italy at San Miniato at sunset, overlooking the Ponte Vecchio.  Our friends had bought some truly rinky dink rings on that same famous bridge earlier that day, and as the sun sank into the horizon, we said our vows.

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    LOL, so there you have it.  The story of my phony wedding in Italy.  This year Sabine, the two timing tramp, got engaged to Alan.  In all honesty though, I can’t say that I’ve been entirely faithful in this marriage.   So here’s to you Bine, on your birthday.  I wish I could be there with you to celebrate.  I know that you will have a wonderful day.  You always do. GLY!!!

    And now for the obligatory embarrassing pictures I’ve taken of you over these past 10 wonderful years darling! (And some not so embarrassing this time…just to show how wonderful you are!)


    The early years

    The Bavarian Princess and Cesar

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    After 2 years in Virginia you’ve become a true redneck!

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    What’s up Doc?

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    That’s certainly not me doing the writing!

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    Partying with the Vikings

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    Another drink please!

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    Peace brother!

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    Caught again

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    Muahhhhhh

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    LOST again!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Treating your husband they way a wife should treat her man

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    Just one of the guys

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    I will love you, until my dying day….come what may

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    Feeling a bit sad

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    GLY!!

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    Just happy to be in LA

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    Pajamas & beer

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    Too much beer!

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    Dream car

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    One of my favorites of us

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    Your true character, and a smile that could light Christmas

    Here’s a more up-tempo version of “our” song, for your party today

     

  • Ask Me About My Dead Son, Soccer Playing Nuns & The Liberation

     

    Someone needs to throw rotten fruit in Ann Coulter’s ugly hateful face.  This absolutely sickens me.  Whether you’re a Republican or Democrat this kind of evil must be stopped.  Boycott this woman in any way you can.  She’s a filthy, smug, hatemonger.  I wish someone would have projectile vomited on her face. And if you haven’t already seen the clip of her referring to John Edwards as a faggot, click here.

    Elizabeth Edwards is a real class act, as is her husband, and if you read her blog, she talks about drowning out the hate. So, I take back my hateful words, but I only hope that this raises awareness of what good people the Edwards’ are. To wit: (Update:  They duped us all!)

    “Now it is our turn to drown out the hate. Find a way — whether it is contribution here that sends a message to Miss Coulter and those who applauded her (which, of course, I prefer) or whether it is a statement on this blog or others or all of the above — but please find a way not to sit silent in acceptance. It doesn’t change until we say we will not be silent when this happens.”  Elizabeth Edwards, wife of presidential candidate John Edwards.

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    Ann Coulter is such a right wing nut job that even George Bush hates her!!

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    I saw a nun yesterday.  Not exactly something I’m used to seeing walking down Santa Monica Blvd!!  I wanted to stop and talk to her, but she didn’t really seem too interested in the dogs.  She made me think about nuns though.  Does anyone remember the show “The Flying Nun“?  It was, in hindsight, an absolutely ridiculous television show starring Oscar winner Sally Field as a nun who could fly. Yes, fly.

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    “The show was commended by several Roman Catholic orders in the late 1960s for humanizing nuns and their work. It also offered a difficult typecasting obstacle for star Sally Field to overcome. Its three season run left such an indelible impression upon its viewers that, more than 30 years after it ceased production, it continues to be satirized and referenced in modern films and television.”

    The nun I saw yesterday was in the more traditional habit, like this photo I took in 2000 of Mick’s aunt, the soccer playing nun!

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    Left to right that’s:  Kurt, Eva, Mary, Mick’s aunt, Sabine (in liederhosen I might add!!), and Mick.  We were having a party at Mick’s parent’s house in Bavaria, Germany. So, in retrospect a flying nun is just plain silly, but a soccer playing nun is absolutely fabulous!!

    Seeing yesterday’s nun and remembering Mick’s aunt made me wonder about habits, so of course Wikipedia had the answer:

    Catholic Canon Law requires only that it be in some way identifiable so that the person may serve as a witness to Gospel values, simple as a mark of detachment from vanity and greed, and becoming.

    Interestingly enough the paradox of veiling a nun in a habit and a Muslim woman in a Hijab is becoming blurred.  As reported in The Guardian last year,

    “In the 1840s, not long after Catholic emancipation, people were so enraged to see nuns brazenly wearing their habits in the streets that they pelted them with rotten fruit and horse dung. Nuns had been banned from Britain since the Reformation; their return seemed to herald the resurgence of barbarism. Two hundred and fifty years after the gunpowder plot, Catholicism was still feared as unassimilable, irredeemably alien to the British ethos, fanatically opposed to democracy and freedom, and a fifth column allied to dangerous enemies abroad.

    Many women, whose mothers had happily discarded the veil, adopted the hijab in order to dissociate themselves from aggressively secular regimes. This happened in Egypt under President Anwar Sadat and it continues under Hosni Mubarak. When the shah banned the chador, during the Iranian revolution, women wore it as a matter of principle – even those who usually wore western clothes. Today in the US, more and more Muslim women are wearing the hijab to distance themselves from the foreign policy of the Bush administration; something similar may well be happening in Britain.”

    I guess my point is, things aren’t always as they seem.  Though nuns can’t fly, they can play soccer.  Though burqas and Hijabs may symbolize the oppression of women, they might also signify their shared identity.  Just something to think about.


    And to end on something lighter, here are a few photos just taken around the neighborhood:

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    Saw this while walking the dogs yesterday. It was thrown out of a window.  Talk about  having yout PC crash!!

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    Sunset Blvd.

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    The Hollywood Sign through the smog.

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    And finally, in the “This is why they hate us so much” category:

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    Here’s Jake Byrd from the Jimmy Kimmel show.  This will crack you up!!

     


  • Virginia Tech – One Week Later – And Onward

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    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 23, 2007 4:51 PM
    Subject: Monday
    To: Carey, Eva, Carolina
     
    I arrived safely here in Blacksburg. After dropping my backpack off I went to see Lindsay and we talked until 3 am, which was really good. So I was a bit better prepared for campus today. my bike ride into school was easier than I had thought, but it took me a while to enter my office building. And it is amazing, our floor is full with cards from school-kids throughout the country, some are even from Portland, Oregon!
    At 9:45 this morning we all went to the drill field for a moment of silence. Very powerful. The media was asked not to take pictures and to leave campus sooner than later and as far as I know, most of them have left. This makes it all a bit more normal. Yet there is still a lot of police around, even FBI is still investigating…which is actually hilarious as those guys really look like out of a movie…gee!

    My advisor came to my office today, tears in his eyes, gave me a hug and told me that he was so happy, that it didn’t happen on Tuesday. We sat in my lab for quite some time and talked about all the good people we have lost and exchanged stories. After that I felt better about being back. And now I am actually glad, not only because Alan is arriving here soon, but because we actually had the chance to do something. One professor had sent out an e-mail today:

    EWR Grad students,
     
    I’m trying to get volunteers to help two of our own survivors, Lee
    & Nathaniel.  Lee & Maria just bought a house, but haven’t been
    able to move in yet because they wanted to paint the walls and get new
    carpet first.  Nathaniel will then be able to move in with Lee & Maria.
    I think it would be great if we can pitch in and help.
     
    If you can spare an hour or more, please stop by their house at 1100
    Golfview Drive later today.  Painting will start around 3:30 or 4.
    Thanks!!!
     
    Of course a bunch of us went there and helped painting and this was such a great feeling. Lee (btw, this is not my room mate Lee) told some stories about last week, which were hard to bear but helped him to get it out.

    True, we are far from a normal life here on campus. We still miss the ones we have lost, but it is actually helpful to be back. Also for the professors, they did an still do an amazing job trying to guide and help their students. Counselors were coming into every classroom today, to talk to the students. Professors stand in front of their classes, in tears, trying to give answers which they can’t but the interaction and the understanding of the students is a big help.

    There is also a lot of talk about the funerals. And all the stories are so positive. Southern baptist, Jews, Hindu are going together to a Muslim funeral. The only religion that combines everybody at this very moment and this very place is love and grief.

    I showed/forwarded Carey’s blog to a lot of people here and they really appreciated what you have done.

    I again want to thank you guys for being such wonderful friends!

    I love you so much and I appreciate our little family! I  feel very lucky
     
    love,

    Bine
    And now, because I want to put something on this website for the first time in a week that will make people smile instead of cry; I present to you my cousin’s new dog:
    Drum roll please

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    Ah, the innocence of children and puppy dogs!  Let the healing begin.

    100_0540 (Medium) 

    Andy & Roxy

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    Tommy & Roxy

    100_0549 (Medium)

    Tressa & Roxy

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    Outside with Puppy (Medium)

    Roxy from the side (Medium)

     Welcome to the family Roxy!

  • A Terrible Tragedy Hits Home – Days 1-3

    virginiatech


    What follows is a first hand account of this weeks tragedy by my friend Sabine, who thankfully lived through it.  Please take the time to read this.  It’s terribly sad, but also hopeful.  I appreciate your condolences to my friend and the loved ones she lost.  She will be arriving in California tomorrow night, and I know she will be overwhelmed by the kindness of strangers.  Thank you. –Carey


    “He was an injustice collector”

    Day 3 – Wednesday

    I’m heading to the aiport now to pick up Sabine.  Thank you ALL so much for your messages, comments and prayers.  I will pass them on tonight…

    She’s finally here.  I hope she can begin healing,


    Day 2 – Tuesday

    ———- Forwarded message ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 17, 2007 9:48 PM
    Subject: the second day
    To: nye group

    After a day of immense sadness and an emotional roller coaster I am finally home.
    I have spent most of the day with friends from our department. Today the shock has settled and the magnitude of Monday’s event hit all of us. Especially when we went back on campus to attend the convocation. Everybody from our group couldn’t help but sobbing. We hugged each other and we tried to comfort each other, which indeed helped.

    The convocation was good for our school especially the speech given by Nikki Giovanni who talked about our morning and our capability to move on.
    After that we went back to a friends place to be together and share the time and to support each other. One of our friends, went to visit Gil, who has been released from the hospital already, and to talk to him. And for you to see, what an amazing person Gil is:
    He said today, one day after he had been shot, that he is not angry at the shooter, that he forgives him. this was not only his fault, it was also the society’s fault our inability to help human beings who are in pain. He forgave the VT-administration, which failed to close down the campus after the first 2 homicides. But most importantly he wants to thank his classmate, who was shot just seconds before him (as of now, I don’t know the name), and who fell on top of Gil, so when the shooter came back, his classmate was shot again and this way saved Gil’s life. Gil said, “he has not only saved my life but the life of my wife, the life of my son, the life of my parents”. Gil is so much more at peace than we all are. No, he has not yet left the shootings behind, but he has already started to move on.

    Maybe you have heard that tuesday night was a candlelight vigil on the drill field of VT. Our group did not go there but stayed at the friends house where we organized our own candlelight vigil. It is not that we didn’t want to show our sympathy with the others, but as our departments mourns the loss of 10 students/faculty, we just wanted to be closer to them…somehow.

    Our classes have been canceled for the rest of the week and Norris Hall will be closed for the remainder of the semester. Some of our professors have already announced, that they are not going to finish their classes anymore, they simply can’t.

    Many people from our group of friends are heading to home to get some healing time, and Youenn has offered me to pay for a ticket to Providence (thank you so much for this generous offer). First I thought I needed to stay here, but after today, being so emotionally drained, I decided to leave Blacksburg for a while. I am not going north though, I guess I am ready for some sun and ocean (well and the friends/husband at the west coast, too). Carey, the master of frequent flyer miles has gotten me a ticket to LA tomorrow afternoon (Thank you again).

    I again want to thank you all for your help, support, phone calls and love. I just hope everybody here at VT has a similar circle of friends…

    love

    bine


    From: Carey
    Sent: Tuesday, April 17, 2007 10:03 PM
    To: Sabine
    Subject: RE: the second day

    You never need to thank me for loving you my friend! See you tomorrow. xoxo
     
    Carey


    Ich habe noch nie so viel Angst gehabt

    Sabine was interviewed by one of the bigger papers in Germany this morning.  Sorry if you don’t read German :)

    Sabine


    Update 6:56 PM PDT:

    Why Outsourcing is Bad

    After Sabine called me at noon, I called United Airlines to book a flight.  I was a 1K flyer with United for over 12 years.  What that means, is that I flew 100,000 miles or more, every year, on United Airlines.  With this status, you would think I would have some influence with the airline, or at receive some perks even though I switched jobs and do not travel near as much anymore.

    When I called United, I was routed to a call center in India.  In the past, 1K customers could call a number where a human being actually answered the phone.  That stopped on 9/11.  When I confirmed that I was indeed speaking to a customer service rep. in India, I told them what I was looking to accomplish.  I had already checked all of the flights out of Roanoke, VA (the closest airport to Blacksburg, VA where the massacre happened) and all of the flights were booked for frequent flyer seats.  I told United that I had assumed they would have opened up more seats because of the tragedy, and the customer service rep. said, “What tragedy”.  I told her briefly what had happened, and she said there was nothing she could do.  I asked to be transferred to a supervisor, and no one was available, so I ended the call.

    Now, keep in mind that I am used to getting what I want.  Traveling that much, for as many years as I did, taught me very well how the system worked and how to work the system.  A few minutes later, when I called back, I was speaking to someone in the Philippines.  I immediately asked to speak with a supervisor and I was transferred.  I then explained to the supervisor what had transpired, and asked him if he was aware of the tragedy in the U.S.  He told me that he was, and that he was sorry for all the victims.

    Now I’m not ethnocentric enough to expect everyone in the world to know about, let alone even care about what happened at Virginia Tech. yesterday, but I would expect a U.S. based carrier to inform their call centers around the world that an event had occurred that would change the pattern of air travel temporarily out of a few cities closest to the event.  I calmly explained this to the supervisor in the Philippines, and he agreed with me.  I asked him to abandon normal protocol and open up some frequent flyer seats for my friend Sabine.  Again, I know the system very well, and I know what is possible and what is not. (Most everything is possible by the way!)

    After I had secured flights to and from Los Angeles for tomorrow thru Sunday, I asked that he transfer me to United Airlines Corporate Headquarters in Chicago.  He said he could not transfer me, but he would see if he could get someone there on the line and conference me in.  It took a while, but before long, I was on a conference call with the Vice President of marketing for United Airlines.  I explained the situation and how the supervisor in the Philippines had helped me.  I also said that the majority of people affected by this tragedy would not know how to or, in their grief, be able to work the system like I did.  I told him in the nicest way that just like his industry changed after 9/11 that the average consumer’s world changed with the advent of blogging.

    Never before in history, has the individual consumer been able to have such a massive effect on the world.  Lately I have noticed how my blog is coming up as the first or second hit on certain Google searches.  The reason for this is that I post very frequently and tag my entries well.  I told him that if enough people were to blog about United Airlines indifference to this tragedy at their call centers around the world, that they could have a public relations nightmare on their hands, and that I would be more than willing to make that happen.

    I suspect those of you who know me, know what happened next.  The Vice President of Marketing for United Airlines promised me that he would notify call center supervisors via systemwide email, that customers flying out of airports within 2 hours of Blacksburg, Virginia would be offered special fares and accommodations for the next 2 weeks.  To be fair, they had already instructed individual airports in the affected area to accommodate travelers affected by the tragedy.  What they did not do however, in this new global economy, was thing globally.  The Internet has made the world a much smaller place after all.  Walt Disney knew this 50 years ago, even before the Internet.

    It’s a world of laughter, a word of tears.  It’s a world of hope, and a world of fears.  There’s so much that we share, that it’s time we’re aware, it’s a small world after all.

    bine

    Me and my friend Sabine last Christmas 


    Update 12:14 PM PDT:  Sabine just called me to say that 10 people from her department were killed including her professor.  She wants to come to Los Angeles ASAP as students are leaving the campus in droves, as it’s just unbearable to be there.  I will be looking for plane reservations from Roanoke to Los Angeles for her tonight, and hopefully she can be here by tomorrow, at least physically away from all of that terrible, terrible sadness.


    Day 1 – Monday

    At 7:10 this morning, I got an email from one of my best friends, Sabine.  We have spent New Year’s Eve together for the past 10 years all over the world.  She is from Germany, but she is getting her PhD at Virginia Tech University in Blacksburg, Virginia.  I’m happy to report that she is alive and was not injured today, though sadly, some of her friends were killed.  In the days and weeks to follow, we will find out more about the worst mass shooting in U.S. history.  For now however, we remember the victims of this terrible tragedy.  What follows, is the complete thread of emails I received from Sabine starting early this morning.  The emails are listed in chronological order in Pacific Time, which is 3 hours behind Eastern Time in Virginia.  Note the times on the emails, and at first, indeed the first few hours, so little was known about what was happening on campus.  Sabine actually makes light of it, as she forgot to bring her lunch with her today.  The second series of shootings occurred 2 hours and 20 minutes after the first, yet the campus remained open and students went to class.  Sabine also appended one of her messages with the first and second emails sent to everyone on campus.  Note the times on these emails, and how progressively worse the situation gets.  Sabine was clearly in shock, and still trying to make light of the situation despite how scared she was.  She didn’t want her loved ones to worry.  Interestingly enough, the university had 2 bomb threats last Friday.  Last year an escaped convict also rampaged the school, killing two police officers.  Sabine still does not know how many of her friends were killed.  As I write these words the death toll is 33, with many more injured.  I have tried to call her several times today, and the cell networks are jammed.  As you read these emails, please keep the victims and their friends and families in your thoughts. –Carey


    From: Sabine
    To: Carey
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:10 AM
     
    we got evacuated from our buildings due to a bomb threat and now we have
    a gunman…never a dull moment in Virginia.

    that is the last update on the situation here on campus….craaazy!

    bine

    P.S: And people wonder, why I am not finishing up with my thesis ;))



    From: Carey 
    To: Sabine
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:14 AM
    Didn’t this happen last year too???
    Stay safe. xoxo

    Carey



    From: Sabine
    To: Carey
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:18 AM
    Well, not the bomb threat, that is an exciting new feature ;))

    The only thing I am annoyed by is: I didn’t bring any lunch with me, and now I
    am not allowed to leave the building and will be starving here….well, lucky
    me, I do have some “natural reserves” so I have a higher chance of surviving

    :))
    bine



    From: Carey
    To: Sabine
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:24 AM

     
    What a nightmare!  Are you home?
    You should finish your PhD at UCLA.  Los Angeles seems safer!
    Did you see the pics of Bassam and Mariana?
     


    From: Sabine
    To: Carey
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 7:43 AM
    No, I am at school…quite disturbing the whole thing!
    Check CNN…already one dead…crazy


    From: Sabine
    To: Carey, Eva, Carolina
    Date: Mon, Apr 16, 2007 at 8:24 AM
    Subject: Fwd: Second Shooting Reported; Police have one gunman in custody
    ok..getting a bit nervous. He crossed campus and moves towards us. Norris Hall
    is the building right next to ours, they better catch the second one quickly

    plus I am hungry and I need food..;)



    ———- Forwarded message ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 9:02 AM
    Subject: evacuation
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina; Youenn
     
    Our VT-server must have collapsed, I cannot get any e-mails from there anymore.

    They are evacuating us now. It is quite some chaos here.

    I have to say, this situation scares the shit out of me…but definitely makes up for a good story ;))

    bine



    Forwarded message from Virginia Tech Office of the Dean Unirel@vt.edu 
    Date: Mon, 16 Apr 2007 09:50:07 -0400
    From:
    Unirel@vt.edu
    Reply-To: Unirel@vt.edu
    Subject: PLease stay put
     To: Multiple recipients <
    LISTSERV@LISTSERV.VT.EDU>

    A gunman is loose on campus.  Stay in buildings until further notice.  Stay away
    from all windows

    —– End forwarded message —–



    —– Forwarded message from Unirel@vt.edu —–
       Date: Mon, 16 Apr 2007 10:52:45 -0400
       From:
    Unirel@vt.edu
    Reply-To: Unirel@vt.edu
     Subject: Second Shooting Reported; Police have one gunman in custody
         To: Multiple recipients <
    LISTSERV@LISTSERV.VT.EDU >

    In addition to an earlier shooting today in West Ambler Johnston, there has been
    a multiple shooting with multiple victims in Norris Hall.

    Police and EMS are on the scene.

    Police have one shooter in custody and as part of routine police procedure, they
    continue to search for a second shooter.

    All people in university buildings are required to stay inside until further
    notice.

    All entrances to campus are closed.

    —– End forwarded message —–



    From:  Bine
    Sent: Monday, April 16, 2007 2:57 PM
    To: Undisclosed Recipients
    Subject: Today’s Shootings 
     
    ok, for all of those who are reading about the VT-shootings online and worry about me. I am fine. We were evacuated.

    I am hanging out with friends here in our house, nobody wants to stay alone right now. Everybody is under shock. 22 people were shot. The second shooting happened in the building next to ours, which also belongs to our department, therefore we don’t know yet, if any of our friends are among the victims. Cell phones are not working and we are still in shock!

    I will keep you posted

    bine



    From:  Bine
    Sent: Monday, April 16, 2007 3:01 PM
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina; Youenn
    Subject: Today’s Shootings
     
    …I am just getting more and more bizarre information and you are probably are not interested in all the details, but it kind of helps me putting it out there, this way, I feel it is more real. We are all sitting here numb and shock…all of us want to cry but we can’t.

    A friend of mine, Gil, who was in the classroom was shot in the head but was able to call. By the time he called, he hadn’t realized that he was shot and told his wife, that he was ok. He said that most of the others where shot including a professor from our department, then he collapsed. He is right now in the hospital and in surgery.
    Another friend of mine, who NEVER skips class, skipped it today!!

    Again, I am not sure, why I am telling you all this, but  it helps.

    My friends and I are sitting here and feel so lucky!

    Thank you all for your concern and help…it really helps



    ———- Forwarded message ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 3:07 PM
    Subject: evacuation
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina; Youenn
     
    Thank you all again for the support and all the good wishes.

    This is the most inconceivable, hardest and scariest situation I have ever been in.

    The thing that drives us crazy is that we cannot get a hold of all our friends. And it is getting harder and harder to stay hopeful and optimistic. It has been confirmed now, that one of our professors has been shot. No news on my friend Gil, they say the surgery will take at least 3 more hours. We heard that they wanted to fly him to a specialist in Richmond but they couldn’t. Due to the high winds they can’t used helicopters.
    aaaaaaaah, I want to scream…everybody here sits and can’t fathom what was going on. Some started crying now but most of us just sit here and we can’t, we are still in shock and numb.

    We also just heard, that it is not for sure if this was really only one shooter. Blacksburg police told us to stay inside. I am not sure, if this are only precautions or if this is really a threat.

    We sit here and just can”t believe how lucky we were. All of us, have classes in Norris. All of us were so scared, because suddenly we were afraid that the bomb threats might have been more severe and as my building was already evacuated on friday we all started to make connections and getting really scared.

    ok, I just got another phonecall, and we heard that another friend of ours, Dan, has been shot and killed.


    ———- Forwarded message ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 5:17 PM
    Subject: evacuation
    To: Carey; Eva; Carolina; Youenn
     

    we finally couldn’t stand it anymore and went to a hospital to see if our friends are listed but we only heard about two and they were in critical condition, on of them Gil.
    There was also one friend, Nathanial, and he told the most horrible story, I don’t know how he will ever be able to live with this memory.

    Nathanial was in one of the classrooms the shooter went in and he reported the following:

    The shooter entered the classroom, shot the professor in the head and then  every single student in the classroom, all of them in the head…all of them but Nathanial. He stood 2 feet away from him but he didn’t shoot him.  Then the shooter left, went  on to the next classroom shot people there and came back. Nathanial, in shock still in the classroom. The shooter tried to spot everybody who was still moving and shot them again…but again spared Nathanial…then he left.

    No deaths are confirmed yet, and the only thing we know for sure is, that Gil and Nathanial have survived but we  are sitting here and have no idea how to  deal with this news.

    We are all trying to comfort each other and stay sane!

    Again my friends, thank you for all your support,help and love! It  is much appreciated and really needed.

    bine

    p.s.: the phones are not really working, it is hard to get through but  Iwill try to  stay in touch with all of you as much as I  can.


     
    ———- Forwarded message ———-
    From: Bine
    Date: Apr 16, 2007 11:37 PM
    Subject: last update for tonight
    To: nye group

    My roommate Lee and I went finally home and try to get some sleep/rest.

    Throughout the night, we got more bad news about other friends who got killed during this insanity.

    Campus is closed for tomorrow but there will be a community service at 2 pm on Campus.
    I want to go there, but I am a bit scared to go back on campus. I don’t fear that there is another shooting, I fear facing the sadness and the insanity of this incident. I am scared, really scared.
    What shocks most is the randomness. Why got some people shot and why were other spared?
    Why?

    Again my friends, thank you so much for your help and support.
    You have no idea how much this helps
     


    From: Carey 

    To: Bine
    Date: Tue, Apr 17, 2007 at 12:30 AM
    Subject: last update for tonight


    Do try to at least rest.  If you need to talk in the middle of the night (which is now I guess), don’t hesitate to call.  You may never understand why some were spared while others were lost.  The best you can do is carry on.  For you will always carry on, and we will keep on speaking your name.  Some things change, some stay the same; like the love of our family and our deep bonds with each other.  God bless.

    Carey
    xo